Growth Mindset

Keep Calm and Growth Mindset

Growth Mindset

I couldn’t believe it when I found this! Yay! I need this on a shirt, now. ūüôā Are you or your children back¬†in school? Maybe you are beginning a new job?¬†Maybe you are¬†managing or teaching others? If you haven’t learned about¬†having and encouraging a growth mindset¬†yet, please read on.

The concept of growth mindset was developed by psychologist Carol Dweck.¬† In recent years, many schools and educators have started using Dweck’s¬†theories.¬† Carol Dweck explains “In a fixed mindset¬†people believe their basic abilities, their intelligence, their talents, are just fixed traits. They also think talent alone creates success, without effort.” Alternatively, “In a growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work, brains and talent are just the starting point.¬† This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.”

When you embrace a growth mindset you realize that your effort and perseverance will lead to learning more and becoming smarter. You will also¬†view challenges and failures as opportunities for your learning and growth. ¬†I can only speak¬†of my own experiences with this. I can say for certain that I have made¬†positive changes in my life¬†by having a growth mindset for myself and my children.¬† In fact, I typically had a growth mindset for my own children, but not for myself. I really kept myself from new experiences for reasons like I’m not that smart, I can’t learn that at my age, I don’t want to fail…It also made me realize that I wasn’t being a good role model for my children thinking that way.

As¬†I tried to keep this mindset when encouraging my children, I found it difficult not to tell my children they¬†were smart! I think It’s okay to still say those things as long as you explain to them that their hard work and effort help them become smarter. My children love to draw and color.¬†When I praise their work I try¬†to be specific about what they did. Instead of just saying “What a beautiful picture”, I would say “Wow, I really like the way you used all those different colors!”, or “I can see how much time you took coloring in that background so carefully.” Another point I have made with my children is that it is okay to make mistakes or even fail at something. It helps us to learn and grow. My older son was pursuing his black belt in karate and at one of his tests he failed. He did not earn the next belt. It was a very difficult experience for him and myself, to be quite honest. It is difficult to see your child struggle, but it is a learning experience. He learned that he needed to practice more and not give up. He did both of those and did go on to receive his black belt. ( Let‚Äôs Talk about¬†Karate¬†)

After¬†reading about Carol Dweck’s research regarding¬†growth mindset, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer’s with Kristina Tracy Unstoppable Me 10 Ways to Soar Through Life came to mind. This is a wonderful book to read to your children to encourage them to have a growth mindset and of course, it also¬†ties nicely with ways to cultivate happiness and mindfulness. ūüôā

unstoppable me

What’s Inside…

  1. You’re Great-No Matter What!
  2. Persistence Pays Off!
  3. Welcome the Unknown
  4. You Have a Choice
  5. Farewell to Worry
  6. Peace Begins with You
  7. Enjoy the Here-and-Now
  8. Healthy Me!
  9. Creativity is the Key!
  10. What Can You Give?

Each point includes an example and an illustration showing how a child might apply the concept in his or her everyday life. Dr. Dyer also includes questions at the end of the book to help begin conversations.  My children have been captivated by the stories and illustrations.  Great book to share with your children or children you care for.

I also found this simple chart that explains the two ways of thinking:

Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset

Older children will appreciate this simple chart to encourage their understanding of the concept of having a growth mindset.

Again, having a growth mindset encourages a love of learning and resilience. It helps us to connect with others in a positive way and gives us all the opportunity to reach our full potential.  If you are interested to learn more I have a more detailed chart and a video on my Happiness Page which is currently my home page. You can also go right to the source at

Stay Calm and Growth Mindset….

"My Happy", Beauty, Happiness, Inner beauty, Positive Psychology

Another Look at “The Power of Style”

Aaahhh…finally. I think this was take 7. I’m not sure, I didn’t count. It seemed like every time I tried to¬†video post¬†it went wrong for one reason or another. This video went mostly well with only a few, hopefully unnoticeable, mistakes. ūüôā My goal here is to encourage folks, like myself, who¬†would like¬†to learn, review or update their knowledge of beauty, style, makeup and fashion.

“The Power of Style”The Power of Style is a great place to start! Of course, it all begins with the beauty within. Please be sure to read my post,¬†¬†She Had Me At “Style Speak”. You can see more from Bobbie Thomas at

This is something I wanted to share from the book

Bobbie's Stress Busters

I am trying to include video posts because it is sometimes easier to sit back and listen, like when you are just hanging out with a friend sharing your interests.


Please forgive my lack of knowledge regarding the beauty products I mention in the video. Here is better information: I like and use these products because they work, they include healthy ingredients, they are not tested on animals, and there are no Parabens, Phthalates, or Petrochemicals. These are a few examples of some I have tried and liked.

Burt’s Bees¬† Intense Hydration Day Lotion with Clary Sage (I also like Burt’s Bees bath and body products for kids)¬†

PIXI Shea Butter Lip Balm Natural Rose

Origins tinted moisturizer with White Tea and sunscreen

The following links are blogs that I enjoy looking at for more beauty and fashion tips:


Here are some of my past style choices….ha ha.Style Over The Years


If this is your first visit to “My Happy” be sure to read the previous post,¬†She Had Me at “Style Speak”, ¬†my “Happiness Page” and the post, “Back to School” For You.

Thanks for visiting “My Happy”!


Happiness, Parenting, Positive Psychology, Uncategorized

“Back to School” for You




“Back to School” for You

Whether you have children, you help to encourage someone else’s, or you are in school¬†use your positivity and growth mindset (see Happiness Page)! Instead of focusing on¬†their/your intelligence,¬†try to focus on efforts, tenacity, resilience, taking risks, creativity,¬†and share in their¬†joy from¬†learning new things or appreciate your own joy from learning!

Jump on board and learn something new as well. Yes, I am sure you all learn new things at your work, school,¬†or with your families, however, when is the last time you chose to learn something new or¬†spark an old interest¬†simply because you would like to? Maybe a new language, an instrument, singing, dancing, a sport, or blogging? If your first response to this is an excuse…… I know what you are thinking. I am too old, it will cost too much, my family wouldn’t want me to.¬† Well, these are just excuses that hold you back.¬† If you¬†are thinking¬†one of these excuses, ask yourself if it is really¬†true. Most likely they aren’t or it is something you can change or find a way around. I discovered I used excuses this way by reading a children’s book to my son by Dr. Wayne Dyer, “No Excuses”.

I will have more on this soon!no excuses

I myself realized cooking helps me to cope with stress and sadness. I had many other reasons behind taking a Culinary Arts 101 class for myself last fall.  A few being I really enjoy cooking,  it helps me to unwind, be creative, be kind, and strengthen relationships.  What I grew to realize, after taking the class was that it was a great way to meet new people with similar interests, it inspired my children to cook and try new things, helped me to gain more confidence to cook and share my cooking, accomplished a goal which boosted my self-esteem to tackle even more new goals! How I appreciate the teacher, Chef Pat, a long time chef and restaurant owner, the other aspiring cooks who were so kind and supportive, the babysitters who cared for my children, my husband and children for encouraging and supporting me, and my one daring friend, Danielle, who came to the class with me! Wow! All from a 10 week cooking class!

Start small and don’t¬† stop.¬†I¬†became focused on¬†this for myself¬†when I decided to reflect on the things I enjoyed before becoming a mom.¬† I¬†LOVE being a mom, however,¬†I wanted to keep some balance in my life and to lead by example.¬† I then went to one of my favorite spots on the internet and¬†searched YouTube for¬†interests I previously had more time for. One ¬†video at a time I began to learn new things, have a little me time and fun. That led to the cooking class, followed by developing a new exercise routine, followed by learning how to blog and I am still learning how to blog! Thanks for your patience!

I hope that this post¬†has inspired you to revisit an old interest or to tackle a new one! Think you can and you will! Remember, start small.¬†This is a strategy known as “baby steps”.¬† If you are successful with small goals, you will gain confidence to tackle bigger ones.¬† I feel strongly that having a growth mindset (see Happiness Page) and focusing on the positives¬†for ourselves and others, especially our children will lead to much happiness.¬† Again, I hope that I have inspired you to learn new interests or revisit past interests¬†so that you may¬†have balance in your life, lead by example, and of course, be happy!