Category Archives: Inner beauty

Kindness For You, Not Excuses

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Everywhere there are acts of kindness taking place. Our local channel for children has a kindest kid contest, teachers have kindness walls, counselors are telling of kindness as the key to successful relationships, I want to bring your attention to one of the most important ways to be kind that you might be missing.

I’m sure you are kind to your children or children you care for, I’m sure you are kind to your husband, wife, extended family, friends, colleagues, church groups, sales clerks, and I could go on. My question is, are you kind to yourself?

You are a very important person in your life, you are your first best friend, have you appreciated yourself lately? Are you chuckling to yourself right now reading this? I hope it is because you know I am right! It is called self-compassion. Be sure to take time to nurture yourself, create your happiness (of course, I had to say that), take a break, smell the roses, and appreciate yourself. We tend to be our own worse critics. We will judge ourselves where we wouldn’t judge or criticize another.  This is a current area of research because so many of us have difficulty with this. However you treat and see yourself, others will too.

This is especially important if you do have children. Your children will learn about self-compassion by the example that you set.  I discovered inspiring books for my children by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer which help them to understand self compassion, self-awareness and  improve their self-confidence. Dr. Dyer wrote “Incredible You” and “Unstoppable Me”, among others.  These, like many children’s books, are wonderful to read over and over throughout your children’s childhood. Because my children liked  these books, I looked for another. I then found, “No Excuses!”

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“No Excuses!” is a story of a young boy who loved sea turtles and dreamed of becoming a marine biologist. My oldest son and I refer to this book often as a reminder to stay focused on our goals.  The first time I read this with my son, I learned a lesson myself!

Dr. Dyer writes this story to increase children’s understanding of what excuses are, where they come from and not to let excuses stand in the way of their dreams.  I had never really thought about my own excuses in the way he described.  At the end of this book I noticed that Dr. Dyer had written a more in-depth book for adults titled “EXCUSES BEGONE!”  How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits. Got it, read it, and I would recommend it, if you find yourself holding back because of excuses. This was where I first realized how strong our mindsets are but, how possible it is to change them. When I asked my children to believe in themselves that they can do anything with effort, a good support team, and positive thinking….why was I not telling myself the same?

I hope YOU know that with effort, a good support team, and positive thinking  you can do anything! Are you telling yourself the same? Remember to be kind to yourself and don’t let your excuses stand in the way of reaching your goals, big or small. 🙂

Let’s Get Positive….Positive…

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Take time to add positivity to your life daily! I always knew that it was important to view experiences in our lives as “the glass half full” as opposed to  “the glass half empty”, what I didn’t realize is that we can actively infuse our lives daily with positivity! Here is the recipe:

A dash of Meditation (please read “Meditation is Concentrated Happiness Training”)

A sprinkle of Looking Forward (big or small, put it on the calendar)

5 Cups of Kindness (even small purposeful acts of kindness decrease stress)

Mix it up Outside (20 minutes daily)

Evaporate Negative television or any Negative media

Add Exercise (produces endorphins and helps keep stress at bay)

Whisk together money for Experiences (shift focus away from material things)

Grow your Signature Strengths

Bake until done and share with friends and family!

Another Look at “The Power of Style”

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Aaahhh…finally. I think this was take 7. I’m not sure, I didn’t count. It seemed like every time I tried to video post it went wrong for one reason or another. This video went mostly well with only a few, hopefully unnoticeable, mistakes. 🙂 My goal here is to encourage folks, like myself, who would like to learn, review or update their knowledge of beauty, style, makeup and fashion.

“The Power of Style”The Power of Style is a great place to start! Of course, it all begins with the beauty within. Please be sure to read my post,  She Had Me At “Style Speak”. You can see more from Bobbie Thomas at http://www.Bobbie.com

This is something I wanted to share from the book

Bobbie's Stress Busters

I am trying to include video posts because it is sometimes easier to sit back and listen, like when you are just hanging out with a friend sharing your interests.

 

Please forgive my lack of knowledge regarding the beauty products I mention in the video. Here is better information: I like and use these products because they work, they include healthy ingredients, they are not tested on animals, and there are no Parabens, Phthalates, or Petrochemicals. These are a few examples of some I have tried and liked.

Burt’s Bees  Intense Hydration Day Lotion with Clary Sage (I also like Burt’s Bees bath and body products for kids)  http://www.burtsbees.com

PIXI Shea Butter Lip Balm Natural Rose  http://www.pixibeauty.com

Origins tinted moisturizer with White Tea and sunscreen  http://www.origins.com

The following links are blogs that I enjoy looking at for more beauty and fashion tips:

http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com

http://www.aprettypennyblog.com

http://www.lizandlifestyle.wordpress.com

http://www.erinsnotions.com

 

Here are some of my past style choices….ha ha.Style Over The Years

 

If this is your first visit to “My Happy” be sure to read the previous post, She Had Me at “Style Speak”,  my “Happiness Page” and the post, “Back to School” For You.

Thanks for visiting “My Happy”!