My family and I practice our EI skills regularly. This is something I encourage you to take time for. Please be sure to do a “self-check” before your try to teach it to your kids or the people in your life. Expecting your children to learn and use these skills only works if you “Lead By Example”. We are role models to everyone around us. Trying to improve and strengthen your emotional intelligence will help your children or the people you are closest to. The following is practical information to begin learning and strengthening your Emotional Intelligence.
“Emotional Intelligence is the set of abilities that helps us get along in life with other people in all kinds of situations.” ~Maurice H. Elias, Ph.D. Rutgers University
Emotional intelligence is a wide range of skills that children (and adults) can develop and improve. Developing and improving these skills are critical for emotional well-being and life success.
The following are social and emotional skills to focus on:
- happiness and optimism
- self-regard (self-compassion)
- emotional self-awareness
- social responsibility
- interpersonal relationship
- problem solving
- stress tolerance
- impulse control
- conflict resolution
Please note, happiness and optimism are at the top of this list. It is my opinion that they should be. If we focus on happiness and optimism we will be strengthening many of the other skills on this list. “My Happy” is full of ideas to strengthen your happiness and optimism. Many of my posts discuss self-awareness. We need to be aware of our thoughts and realize we can control them and choose to be positive. Using positive thinking can improve other skills. Take flexibility for instance. I realized that I have difficulty with this at times. In fact, I can really get annoyed when plans change at the last-minute. My initial reaction was to become upset and react negatively (grumpiness, I know, hard to believe..ha ha). After realizing I did this, I had more control over it. Now when something happens that forces me to be flexible (when I don’t want to) I still may initially react negatively, but I can usually catch myself and change my attitude. 🙂 My improvement happened as a result of practicing positive thinking which contributed to my being a more flexible thinker.
Learning and improving these skills is important for everyone. Not only does it improve your social and emotional well-being, it leads to a more successful life. This is a topic that I have wanted to share with others, especially caregivers because I know the value of these skills for children. Not only does it help children do well socially and emotionally, it increases learning potential.
As I continued my research in this area, I found CASEL. The Collaborative for Social and Emotional Learning, based at the University of Illinois at Chicago, seeks to enhance children’s success in school and life by promoting evidence-based social, emotional, and academic learning as an essential part of education from preschool through high school. I am looking forward to someday having SEL in schools world-wide. Website: http://www.casel.org or check them out in my twitter feed!
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more to come…..