Monthly Archives: October 2014

Another Look at “The Power of Style”

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Aaahhh…finally. I think this was take 7. I’m not sure, I didn’t count. It seemed like every time I tried to video post it went wrong for one reason or another. This video went mostly well with only a few, hopefully unnoticeable, mistakes. 🙂 My goal here is to encourage folks, like myself, who would like to learn, review or update their knowledge of beauty, style, makeup and fashion.

“The Power of Style”The Power of Style is a great place to start! Of course, it all begins with the beauty within. Please be sure to read my post,  She Had Me At “Style Speak”. You can see more from Bobbie Thomas at http://www.Bobbie.com

This is something I wanted to share from the book

Bobbie's Stress Busters

I am trying to include video posts because it is sometimes easier to sit back and listen, like when you are just hanging out with a friend sharing your interests.

 

Please forgive my lack of knowledge regarding the beauty products I mention in the video. Here is better information: I like and use these products because they work, they include healthy ingredients, they are not tested on animals, and there are no Parabens, Phthalates, or Petrochemicals. These are a few examples of some I have tried and liked.

Burt’s Bees  Intense Hydration Day Lotion with Clary Sage (I also like Burt’s Bees bath and body products for kids)  http://www.burtsbees.com

PIXI Shea Butter Lip Balm Natural Rose  http://www.pixibeauty.com

Origins tinted moisturizer with White Tea and sunscreen  http://www.origins.com

The following links are blogs that I enjoy looking at for more beauty and fashion tips:

http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com

http://www.aprettypennyblog.com

http://www.lizandlifestyle.wordpress.com

http://www.erinsnotions.com

 

Here are some of my past style choices….ha ha.Style Over The Years

 

If this is your first visit to “My Happy” be sure to read the previous post, She Had Me at “Style Speak”,  my “Happiness Page” and the post, “Back to School” For You.

Thanks for visiting “My Happy”!

 

She Had Me at “Style Speak”

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My hope is to pleasantly surprise, not confuse. Creating happiness is unique to you, but there are some things we all need to focus on. Even if you might not think this is important to you, I hope to change your mind by the end of the post.

As I was saying in my “Back to School For You” post, I found myself reflecting on my life and trying to get back to things I used to enjoy.  One of those things for me was beauty, style, and fashion.  I wondered why my style and fashion sense seemed to have escaped me. Rarely did I get a chance to watch t.v., however this one particular  morning I grabbed a laundry folding chance to watch a morning show.  I happen to catch Bobbie Thomas being interviewed about her new book (at that time) “The Power of Style”. I decided to buy it that morning. What I got was so much more than makeup and fashion tips.

The Power of Stylee

“Style is the way we speak to the world without words.” Bobbie further explains how important it is that we really understand ourselves inside and out.  Her first career began as she pursued graduate studies in marriage, family, and child counseling.  She begins the book by explaining the significance of our feelings and view of ourselves.  She writes how women (in particular) tend to look in mirrors and focus on the flaws instead of appreciating the beauty. Focusing on flaws leads to feeling sorry for yourself which usually leads us to lifting our spirits with sweets and treats (not a healthy coping skill). On the other hand when people feel great they are motivated to take care of themselves which leads to confidence and self awareness which strengthens us to make the changes in our lives that we need to make.

This is so similar to the point Shawn Achor makes in “The Happiness Advantage” regarding the importance for us to try to focus on the positives. In both instances we need to focus on both the positives occurring in our lives and about ourselves.  I would like to address the negatives here. There are experiences in our lives that are negative which do need our attention and respect. In that you don’t want to deny some of the happenings in your life because they are sad or frustrating. There are moments you need to feel the sadness or the anger, but don’t allow it to be the only thing you can think about. Also, help yourself move through it without it always casting a shadow on your present.

Back to “The Power of Style”. Bobbie includes simple strategies, like leaving yourself a sticky note with inspiration where you will see it daily.  I liked this idea of writing song lyrics, quotes, or a simple reminder to smile. Remember the simple act of smiling sends chemicals to our brain which help us to feel good? She included a quote by George Bernard Shaw, “Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself”.  This quote is one of my favorites and it turned up in my life again, very randomly, on a magnet which is now on my fridge.  I try to live that one.

She also very genuinely and honestly reveals that the reflections in our lives don’t just come from mirrors, but from the people around us. The people in our lives reflect back what they see in us, sometimes accurately and sometimes inaccurately.  Just like those fun house mirrors, people in your life who might be concave or convex themselves, may reflect back their own imperfect idea of you. It is important to take in what the people in your lives reflect back to you. Once I began to do this and really listen, I usually found something about myself I could work on and improve. This, I think, helped my relationships. Of course, there have been times when I knew the reflection was not accurate, then I took time to figure out whether to work on that relationship or let it go. Surround yourself with positive people who see you and reflect back your true self.

To be continued…..

“Live and Learn” or Should I Say, “Blog and Learn”?

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Blog and LearnHello Readers, I was very proud of sharing the “Social Thinking” post, finally. It is one of the reasons I wanted to blog.  I carefully write as I explain my opinions, because I truly want to reach out to any family who may benefit from the things I have.  I learned however, I need to be more specific with my wording.  What I found with all kinds of wonderful, unique children is that they will appreciate being treated with respect, kindness, honesty, and genuine care for their well-being. With that said, I thought “You Are a Social Detective” helped children to feel good about themselves and showed them that they have the tools to develop their social smarts.  If I say something is good for all children (like the “You are a Social Detective” book) what I mean to say is, it’s something I found useful and you might want to give it a try with your child. Of course, it is possible that your child may not like it or find it useful.

As I continue learning in these areas and about blogging, I will surely grow and be able to “Live and Learn” and “Blog and Learn”. Does that make sense? I was fortunate, for many reasons, to be listening to a presentation the other day as a parent shared that her son did not like the language “expected and unexpected” in the works of Michelle Winner Garcia (complete coincidence ). I wanted to share this opinion on my blog because it would have been a welcomed comment on my blog post, “Social Thinking”.

I then realized it would be helpful to add this post.  If you do try this book and your child does feel that way, it could be a good conversation starter. Also, some children, especially older children, may not like this kind of book if they feel it doesn’t address their needs. My experiences using this book have been with children 10 years old and younger. (I should have said this in the video or in the post.)

I also want to express that I know some children have more challenging needs for help with their “social smarts”.  Thankfully, today there are many more resources for parents. Always share your concerns with your pediatrician. Usually they can advise you if your concerns about your child may need to be checked out by a specialist. They can also direct you to the specialist that is best suited for the concern. There are many doctors, therapists, social skills groups, early intervention programs, and more that are there to help you. If your child is of school age, you can also share your concerns with their teacher.  I think when your child has difficulty with social and emotional issues, it may seem complicated to know who to turn to for help.

It is so important though, whether your child is having difficulties or not, to guide our children as much as we can to help them increase their social smarts, emotional intelligence and happiness! Thanks again for your patience as blogging is a new learning experience for me. I am trying to stay positive, helpful, honest, reach out to whomever my blog resonates with, show you things I found helpful as a teacher or parent,  and learn from my readers. Thanks for reading!